There are a few distinct issues that raise problems for those trying to achieve laudable results when setting goals. Whether it’s someone new to the process, or the veteran who’s set countless. More often than not many are left wondering why their percentage of actually hitting them are less than adequate.
The main drivers are these: They are setting goals that either allow for failure. (i.e., The penalty for missing is inconsequential) They are uninspiring in the actual reward. Or, the reward date is too far off into the distance making the whole process laborious. Non are exclusionary onto themselves. Many times there are combinations of these and more.
“Goals” are not “wishes” nor vice vera. Goal setting that equates to “wish filling” is useless. Goals should and need to be articulated on the how and why one is going to reach them, along with a true carrot and stick measurement that helps to foster the achievement into a sacrosanct act. If the possibility of not fulfilling the goal leaves one with little discomfort or nothing more than “Oh well, I’ll try harder next time.” Then don’t even start, it will be a waste of time.
If one wants to truly see this process in action and test its validity, set your next goal following this criteria…
Pick a goal or accomplishment prize that requires a fixed dollar amount to purchase. i.e., A tangible, not intangible goal, such as a piece of jewelry, television, vacation tickets, etc. Then go out right then and there – and buy it!
Use common sense. I’m not saying go out and buy some new boat, car or other high ticket item that would break the bank. But the goal must be something tangible and something truly worth your effort. An example might be something along these lines:
If you want to lose weight, empty your closet (all of it at once) keeping only what is necessary to keep you clothed and immediately go out and purchase 1 new outfit today just 1 size smaller. Once you reach fitting into that smaller size – clear out all of the remaining clothes – and buy what you now need to keep you clothed in that new size; along with again buying one additional outfit 1 size smaller.
Rinse, repeat (yes even if this means possibly removing brand new items never worn during the process. For if you’re serious – they must go there and then regardless.) till reach your desired level. If you can’t clean out the closet (again) then and there, or, you make arguments to yourself as to keep things because, “I just bought these!” Or, “I never even wore this!” You’re not serious. You’re leaving a fall back position. That’s for wishing – not goal setting. Besides, think of the someone probably far less fortunate than yourself who will now have the ability to enjoy something they themselves maybe could not have purchased.
If you need a new computer the same process applies. Go buy it – now. Then make the adjustments you deliberately concluded would pay for it accordingly. And stick too them.
If you don’t live up to fulfilling what’s needed to accomplish your goals this process inherently reminds you – that you, not someone else, not some other excuse, but you, were the reason for not living up to keeping the goal.
This is a very powerful process and should not be taken lightly; for it truly sheds all manner of hiding one’s true resolve and shines the spotlight exactly where that light needs to be: directly on you, and your true commitment to your own resolutions.
Start small. However, the reward must be large enough showing the true value of achieving the goal, along with spotlighting the true hazards of not reaching it. Not doing the required tasks for completion must have actual consequences. Again, that said, common sense is the key.
Never, should a goal setting exercise be entered into where it could leave one financially damaged. That’s just plain foolish.
That said, goal setting should only be practiced when seriousness is in play. Otherwise, just keep playing around with wishing and hoping. There’s no commitment needed for the outcomes there.
© 2015 Mark St.Cyr